A few months ago I got a call from someone going through an unexpected job loss. She wanted me to help her find work and immediately I began reeling off options. After we hung up, it hit me that I’d taken the wrong approach. I’d switched into fire fighter mode without truly investigating what her real needs were and at best, my options would have only been a temporary fix.
Our first decision is usually to put things back the way they were. If we were making $5000 a month to cover our bills, then we want to find another job to replace that income. A more useful approach would be to see a job loss or other major change as a gift, a stop sign on the road of your life to say, “here’s a great place to check your GPS and see if you are heading in the direction you want to go.”
I shot off an email to her asking her to spend a few days reconnecting with her spirit and going back to the basics. I encouraged her not to make a decision about her future while her mind was racing. Getting still in this season is critical.
Yes, making money is important but if all you’ve done is replace something that wasn’t fulfilling you with something else that isn’t then you’ve made a lateral move.
A personal or business disappointment is the right time to shift.
Stop. Breathe. Think.
What do I need to learn from this?
How can I use this opportunity to make a shift that will impact my future in a positive way?
What actions can I take to manifest what my deepest desire is?
You may be surprised at the answers and although they may seem counter to your usual mode of operation, it is important to pay attention to the solutions you receive. Trust your spirit as you really do know what you need to thrive.
Take notes of how you feel, does the decision increase your stress or alleviates it? If the choice causes you more anxiety then it is not the choice for you at this time.
You are always able to make one move towards that new direction. That first move is always to make a decision to expect good things to happen for you. The second is to take action in the direction of your new goal.
Shortly after my friend began to make plans more in line with her long-term dream for herself and seeing the results. The job I was suggesting while it would have paid the bills would have taken her in a direction further from her own inner guidance. When we take the time to be still, we can tap into the power of God within us, which desires that we live the richest life possible.