We’re a world gone list crazy. Post a top 10 worse dressed list or 5 reasons to dump him and everyone is reading and sharing. But are lists really the best way to live our life to the fullest and accomplish our dreams?
One guru says make a list so you can check off each goal as you do it. Another says chuck the lists and allow spirit to be your guide. Who’s right and who’s wrong?
They both have merit and depending on what you are doing it is essential to have a list.
If you were planning an event, you would want to know all the things you needed to buy and what tasks must be done and by whom. Lists are not so good when you are making life altering decisions like selecting a mate or going after a big dream.
As a woman I can easily fill a legal-size pad with all the requirements I want my dream husband to have and then spend considerable amount of time dreaming that he was in my like. But what a waste of time and energy. The energy that it takes to conjure up this mental image of the perfect guy who is six-foot tall, Harvard graduate and with a seven-figure bank account would mean precious spiritual resources which are unavailable to tap into your inner desires.
His physical appearance and financial status,though very important should not outweigh the need that he be someone who meets your emotional needs and is willing to be a co-creator in the relationship. You may want someone who enjoys the things you do but at the risk of falling in love with yourself, it would be a better idea that he be someone willing to engage and support you in your exploits as you would do with his.
When going after a dream that seems unattainable it would seem to make sense that you plot out exactly how you will get there but often that reduces your ability to see other options. You get tied in to the one way you believe it has to manifest and so push away any other ways that it can come to reality. I did this when I was creating Victory Christian Academy. I had my mind and plans set on this one way I wanted the school to work. I planned campaigns around it and had my mind and heart set on having it my way. However, the more I held on, the further away I got from the goal to open the school. The moment I let go of this one way it all had to come together was the very instant that it worked out. Money started coming, parents started to register their students and we were on our way.
So I say make your lists for grocery shopping, to-do tasks around the home or when setting up your business but chuck the lists when you are ready to draw in the love of your life or go after that massive dream. Stay open to what love has for you. Do not compromise what your spirit and emotions really need to thrive for the sake of getting a man with just the right height and wealth. Do not accept shortcuts to your dream because it will allow you to check boxes on your lists. Ask yourself if this route connects with your deepest desires and visions for its fulfillment.
Be blessed. You are eternally loved.