I’m their Mother, Not their Father

orphans2I’ve been highly annoyed today as I am right before Father’s Day every year. Maybe it’s because I get the inevitable discussions with my children about their absent father, which requires honesty and lots of diplomacy. Maybe it’s mommy guilt for not being able to do all that I want to for them. Mostly its the Happy Father’s Day greetings I get from well-meaning friends who are trying to say that I’m both mother and father to my children.

Truth is. I am their mother and I am not their father. I can never be no matter how many light bulbs I change or soccer games I sit through.

Even if I wanted to say I was both mother and father my children know this is not true. They are very aware that their father is missing. Not just physically but spiritually.

You see fatherhood is much more than the supplying of money or the man in the house. It is a spiritual connection and calling that many men seem to miss. This is why there can be a man in the home and children still feel abandoned.

Thankfully God has promised to be a father to those who have no father. He can teach men who want to be better fathers how to accomplish that. He enables our children, though fatherless, to live complete lives as He fills those spaces which yearn for a father’s spiritual connection.

If fatherhood or motherhood were just physical acts then many of us would fail as we can never measure up or provide everything our children may need in their natural lives. But when we include the spiritual element that we give and is essential for their growth, then it balances out and in fact supersedes the limitations we have in the physical.

God’s promise to my children is that He will be their father. He will father those abandoned or orphaned. He does it in a way that allows us to continue being the best mothers we want to be for our children. It is a full-time job wanting to be a good mother and I have no desire to add to that by trying to be two people instead of one.

So to all the fathers out there Happy Father’s Day.

New Anancy Children’s Book by Caribbean American Blogger, Soca Mom launches June 15

anancy_family_reunion_cover_500px_socamomWashington, DC – Granted Publishing is pleased to announce the upcoming release of the first in a series of brand new Anancy stories for children, Anancy’s Family Reunion, written by Caribbean American blogger, Eva Greene?Wilson, and illustrated by Charles Metze, III.
Readers will gladly get wrapped up in Anancy’s web of new tricks in these entertaining tales of the “spider man”, a character well known to and loved by children and adults in West Africa and the Caribbean.
About the Book
In Anancy’s Family Reunion, Anancy has been up to his old tricks, but a visit from family will change
everything – or will it? This new and imaginative take on Anancy folklore will reintroduce a new
generation of children to a character deeply rooted in African and Caribbean oral tradition.
Anancy’s Family Reunion is appropriate for all ages, and children with reading abilities at the third grade (US) or year four (UK) level can read the book independently. Adults will enjoy a return to their childhood while they share a new story with their children about a character from their youth.
About the Author
Eva Greene Wilson is the Editor and owner of, an award winning website for Caribbean
parents. Eva graduated Magna Cum Laude from North Carolina A&T State University with a degree in
Marketing. She has been writing and telling stories since she was a child and has used her talent as a
storyteller to entertain and educate the readers of her blog since 2011. Eva’s work has been featured on, and republished in print and online in b3 Caribbean Magazine and online in Outlish
In 2012, this busy wife and mother was honored with two Black Weblog Awards, Best New Blog and Best
Parenting Blog. She sponsors two offline groups for Caribbean parents in Washington, DC and Brooklyn,
NY, and hosts the annual Anancy Festival in Washington, DC with the Institute for Caribbean Studies. This is Eva’s first children’s book.
About the Illustrator
Charles Metze III is a gifted illustrator. He earned a Master’s degree in Fine Arts from Howard University in May 2013.

Anancy’s Family Reunion will be available for purchase on in digital and print formats, and on in print format on June 15, 2013. Review copies are available for reviewing press and
bloggers at

New Book: Chee Chee has a Pirate Adventure

CAScover2BASSETERRE, ST.KITTS – Chee Chee, the pet Vervet monkey who stole our hearts in Adventure at Brimstone Hill is back and this time he is taking Mark and Kyle on an adventure to Jamaica in Carol Mitchell’s latest book, Pirates at Port Royal.

Pirates at Port Royal is the second installment in the Caribbean Adventure Series created by Mitchell, who hails from St. Kitts & Nevis. It is based at Port Royal in Jamaica and features the infamous pirate, Henry Morgan.

The book includes the characters that we got to know in the first book in the series, Adventure at Brimstone Hill. Mark, Kyle and Ingrid are modern day West Indian children, who, guided by their pet monkey Chee Chee, are transported magically to adventures in the past. In Pirates at Port Royal, the children become a part of a true and spectacular adventure with Henry Morgan. The children once again have to use their wits to save their lives.

“It is surreal now having two published books,” says Mitchell. “I knew I wanted to write a series but it was still a bit of a risk calling it a series when I did the first book. Now that the second book is actually out there, the series is real and I feel inspired to keep it going.”

The author said it wasn’t difficult to choose where the second book would be based as she knew she wanted to do a story about Kyle’s love for pirates. “The location actually chose me,” Mitchell explained. “I struggled a bit with this. Since I am based in St. Kitts, from a marketing standpoint, it is easier to do the books based here or in Nevis. However, Kyle had to fulfill his pirate fantasy and all of my research pointed to Port Royal.”

Carol-Mitchell-Author“My visit to Port Royal was great. It really helped to cement things in my mind, the excitement the boys would have felt going there,” Mitchell said. “When I write, I am describing pictures that I see in my head, so I was then really able to visualize where they would have gone and so on.”

Easily the most memorable character in each of Mitchell’s books is Mark’s pet monkey Chee Chee. Just as in the first book, Chee Chee shows up unexpectedly and his appearance begins the start of an adventure. “Vervet monkeys are plentiful in St. Kitts, so the inspiration was certainly right in my face. They are also so intelligent and full of mischief, they really lend themselves to this sort of story.”

Pirates of Port Royal is now available on You can learn more about Mark and Kyle’s adventure in Jamaica and Vervet monkeys like Chee Chee by visiting

About Carol Mitchell

Carol is an Information Technology professional, who lives and works in St. Kitts-Nevis. She began her writing career in high school when she wrote public service pieces and participated in several debating competitions. After leaving high school to pursue further studies, Carol focused her efforts on developing her information technology and business management skills, while making every effort possible to write and participate in public speaking.

Her passion and love of reading, children and her Caribbean home led to the creation of the Caribbean Adventure Series. Adventure at Brimstone Hill and Port Royal are now available around the Caribbean and on

About goldenmedia Montserrat

goldenmedia Montserrat specializes in public and media relations, design, digital media and social media. We also develop strategic alliances for the Caribbean film and music industry, and assist in promoting the careers of outstanding authors and speakers.

goldenmedia Montserrat creates events that empower and promote a Truly Caribbean experience.

New Book: Adventure at Brimstone Hill

BASSETERRE, ST.KITTS – Kids of all ages will enjoy a delightful and fun-packed new adventure series from first-time author Carol Ottley-Mitchell of St. Kitts/Nevis, which will be launched on November 26th.

Adventure at Brimstone Hill is the first installment of the Caribbean Adventure Series created by Ottley-Mitchell for young readers allowed the author to combine her love for the Caribbean with a passion for helping young minds learn about their history and culture.

“Reading is a key part of our children’s development and this is why I have created the Caribbean Adventure Series.

“The books are about three West Indian children who have adventures in the past that lead them to discover their history. The first, Adventure at Brimstone Hill is set at the Brimstone Hill National Fortress Park in St. Kitts where they wander down a tunnel in search of a pet monkey and find themselves in the past and in the middle of a historical battle at sea between the British and the French,” she explained.

Carol, who presently resides on St. Kitts, is a wife, mother of two and the owner and main software developer for Leyton’s Microcomputer Systems. She confesses that becoming a mother really gave her the courage to write as she realized there was so much about her island’s history and culture that was disappearing.

“My kids love to read and I thought this would be a great way of broadening their imaginations as well as share some of my favorite experiences of living on St. Kitts and in other parts of the Caribbean. Future books will send Mark, his monkey Chee Chee and his friends around the islands.”

If you are already making a Christmas list for the children in your life, then be sure to check out this book. You can learn more by visiting

Take Your Life Back One Decision at a Time

I took more of my life back today, made another decision to live and not die, to create the life I desire most and to allow my children to see through my life that when you pray and believe, God moves big.

All year long I have been living out a vision that the Lord showed me at the end of 2007 and in one portion of it, a man, who I assume to be the person of Jesus asks me if I still felt threatened by my ex-husband. I heard myself in the vision say ‘No I don’t.’ In my thoughts as I am seeing myself say this I wonder, shouldn’t it be better to say not at this time? But I felt resolved and so I repeated my statement, ‘No I don’t.’

shacklesThe man turns and hands me two pieces of an object that looked as if they were broken. I have wondered what those objects were and it was not until two months ago, I saw a news program and realized they were broken shackles such as what my foreparents wore on the slave ships from Africa. The Lord had returned to me the broken shackles of fear and pride that had kept me bound, not just for the length of my marriage but since I have known myself.

But what to do with those broken shackles?  Once they were in my hand, I saw Him walk away and restore my children to me. He also restored the children of the school I began. I could see this because they seemed to be on the other side of a big gulf from me and He needed to climb down into it, walk to the other side and then take them over the barbed wire and walk them back to me.

I took that walk with my children on Monday morning. And it is as I write this, that I can see the image in my mind and the area we walked through seemingly to our freedom was a long a ledge, with a barbed wire fence on one side and a great gulf, actually a deep gut that was partially filled with water. Isn’t God good. I would have missed that if He hadn’t taken me down this road today.

Today I take more of my life back. I am putting a stop to the harassment of the enemy. Today I say ‘Satan, the Lord rebuke you.’ My ex has been a heavy weight over my life for almost 10 years now, although we have been divorced for three. I thought the work was done when I left but the hardest work was done just in the past three months as I took the steps not just to be free of fear but to live free of fear and claim the life I want and God says is mine to have.

I convinced myself for a long time that somehow he could still be a factor in there life although we were not together. But when I look at my children and I see what three months of living with him and the three women he went through in that time, I know without a doubt that he was not good for them. Somehow we convince ourselves that our children still need men like him as a father. But how can they when they see you be abused verbally and physically. Why and how could they feel genuine love and affection and live without fear when they see the woman who gave them life be treated in this way? How could they so small and innocent believe that they would not inherit the same fate?

I’ve stopped lying to myself and more than that I am using those broken shackles. God has never brought me through anything that did not have a solution that I could use or equipped someone else to help me with. We forget this God of Justice who says that He repays the wicked for things done against His children. Problem is that He takes longer than we would left to us but His timing is always perfect. The timing is perfect today for me to make another decision to take back my life and that of my children.

I pray you will do the same.