Guide to Loving a Caribbean Man

Excerpts from Truly Caribbean Woman’s Guide to Good Love by Nerissa Golden (2008). All rights reserved. Do not reprint without permission of the author.

Introduction

By Nerissa Golden

Do you remember back when you and your friends played the AEIOU – 12345 game to see if you and the cute guy next door had a future as boyfriend and girlfriend? I will confess doing that long past high school as if there were magic in those numbers. The vowel-numbers game is as ineffective as reading your horoscope to make the monumental decision of choosing a life mate. It will take more than a few matched numbers to bring the man of your dreams into view. So why don’t we get ready until he shows up. I guarantee it will be much more fun than sighing over those miss-matched vowels and double digits to ensure that you are ready to love your Caribbean man.

If you live or have ever visited the Caribbean, then you know our men come in all shapes, sizes, colors and accents. His navel string may be buried under his grandmother’s banana tree or he could be a transplanted New Yorker or Arab. No matter his heritage or country of origin, he could be the man in your future.

Let me say up front, I am totally against the over-dramatization of the terrible plight of the black man and the constant encouragement that black women should go outside our race to find a good man. There are many good black men out there and available, looking for a good Caribbean woman to love. The problem has not been the dwindling statistics of good men, but in our neglect for preparing ourselves to attract a good man.

This guide was developed in my own quest to become a better woman, not only for the sake of welcoming a great man in my life but to live a more productive and loving life. By no means do these pages hold all of the answers because everyone’s situation and background is different. Each of us comes to the table of life with our own tastes, and particular dislikes. I want to encourage you to identify them and be willing to drop the ones that are limiting your view and richness in life but be sure to keep those that are essential to your purpose and passion.

I wish you all the best on your journey to find love and fulfillment with your man.

Excerpts from Truly Caribbean Woman’s Guide to Good Love by Nerissa Golden (2008). All rights reserved. Do not reprint without permission of the author.

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